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Discovering Ones Own Body
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS: Discovering ones own body
– with the help of a partner
Too often women expect their men to pleasure them
without having first identified what they like. This is not to say that women do
not recognize when something feels good, rather,
what I am suggesting is that some women do know what the literal motions are
that cause them to feel good. Thus,
this exercise is designed to help women identify which motions are most pleasing
to their own bodies. Given that
this is a two-person exercise, the male will also benefit from this exercise.
Not only will he be with a woman who has a greater awareness for her own body,
but he too will have learned with her what types of motions turn her on the
most!
This exercise begins when the male has an erection and the
female is lubricated. Some couples
prefer masturbating to ensure a ‘hard’ erection and a ‘wet’ vagina.
If the woman is having trouble lubricating, sometimes adding a little bit
of Astroglide, a water based lubricant, is helpful.
Once wet, engage in coitus with the woman on top.
Specifically the male should lay still to encourage the woman to engulf
his erect penis with her vagina. The woman should then move her hips in as many
different ways as she can think of, all the while taking note of which motions
feel the best to her. Having
discovered what feels best, repeat, but this time changing the position of the
knees / legs. Specifically a)
squatting, b) sitting upright with legs out in front (so the motion comes from
using your arms to help move you, c) laying down with both feet being near each
other d) kneeling while leaning forward e) kneeling while sitting upright.
Again move the hips in all different directions a) forward, b)
side-to-side, c) circular and d) up & down.
Throughout all of these positions their should be silence between the
partners. The goal of this is NOT for the male pleasure, but rather for the
female pleasure. She is simply moving for her own excitement. Then, at the
woman’s command, the man should tilt his pelvis a) back, b) none c) slightly
forward d) all the way forward. Again,
the woman will need to repeat all the different positions so that she will be
able to determine which positions causes her the most arousal.
Helpful hints:
. . . .tell your partner how much this exercise
is turning you on. Tell her let go of her inhibitions and to ‘ride you’ any
way that feels comfortable. Get creative verbally and find ways to give her
permission to be selfish and just to focus on her own sexual pleasure.
For the female . . .use this as a great opportunity
to focus on yourself for once. Too often lovers spend too much time trying to
please the other and they forget about focusing on self. Remember sometime
knowing that someone is orgasmic from their penis is as much of a turn on as
receiving a blow job.
All tips written by Alex Robboy, LSW
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