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How
To
Have
Good
Sex!
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Better
sex
Ever wondered how to have better sex? If the answer to this question is yes,
then try the following:
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rent
some sex educational videos of people having sex (these types of
videos are often boring, but educational. Probably in part
because they are 'boring' they promote a certain type of
conversation, which promotes better sex)
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Read
some books on how to become a better lover. Sometimes,
learning a new technique for touching is enough.
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Pace
yourself, meaning, each time you learn a new trick, tip or idea only
introduce one new idea/concept per week. Becoming a great lover does
not happen overnight. Each new tip, trick or idea needs practice.
Spending a week on it allows sufficient time to fully explore it.
Furthermore, by pacing out the new ideas you suddenly become viewed
as 'creative'. Each time your lover has sex with you, you are
doing something new!
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Read
some sexy books out loud with your partner. While in some ways this
might be an embarrassing task, it has the potential to open an
entire new discourse on sexuality.
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Request
feedback. While words can be useful, request feedback through
the senses. For example, ask your partner, if she likes what you are
doing to make noises. The louder she is the more she likes it, and
the more you will do it. Feel her heart beat. The faster her
pulse, the more she likes it.
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Play the
mirror game. Touch your partner, the way your partner normally
touches you. Typically people touch others the way they want to be
touched, thus by playing the mirror game (doing everything in the
same way back to them) almost by default you will have discovered
your partners favorite likes and dislikes.
Written by
Alex Caroline Robboy, LCSW, CAS
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