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The Female Orgasm
HTHGS: Orgasm (written by Erin Black, BA)
Talk to your girlfriend and ask what she likes to have
touched. Maybe she gets really turned on when you touch her nipples and breasts
or kiss and nibble her ears. The only way you can find her hot spots is to ask
or explore for yourself. Next time you have sex try laying her down and start at
the top or bottom and kiss, touch, nibble or lick every part of her body that
you are comfortable touching or licking. Go slow and listen to her responses. By
finding hot spots you may be able to help her reach orgasm.
The best thing you can do is to talk to your
girlfriend and find out what she wants or what really turns her on. If she
doesn’t really know, the two of you get to experiment and try new things and
explore each other bodies, which can be just as rewarding as reaching orgasm. By
not setting the goal of reaching orgasm for every time you have sex both you and
your girlfriend can have fun and when sex is relaxed you’ll find that orgasms
may be easier to reach.
There are a number of books available that have pictures or detailed instructions on all the how to’s of sex, I suggest you read any of these with your girlfriend and talk about what you both like. Also, never forget the number of sex toys available for sexual pleasure. This website, howtohavegoodsex.com has a links for books and sex toys. Browse around and see if anything catches your fancy. Remember sex is about both you and your partner and communication is the best way to know what is going to get both of you sexually aroused. Erin Black, BA
Dispelling a few myths & Help to reach orgasm (written by Erin black, BA)
most important thing to remember is that sex includes everything from making out
on the couch, to giving each other oral sex, to taking a bath together, to
sharing an intimate meal and the obvious and most talked about, having
intercourse. In all these different
acts of sex there is no finish line. Orgasm
is a wonderful experience that makes being with someone or exploring yourself
rewarding. However, if your only focus is to orgasm, peak, climax or
finish, you are missing out on all the fun touching, kissing, tasting, holding
or feeling can be during sex. A
simple explanation and a relatively down to earth view is that when you are
stressed and worried about reaching orgasm or finishing it prevents you from
relaxing and enjoying.
idea that you state in your question is that you “hear” that having sex
about five times a week is more than normal.
Who did you hear this from? There
is no limit or number of times for having sex that make it normal or abnormal
unless having sex interferes with your ability to function at work or in your
social life. Generally, though, if
you can have sex and it does not interfere with life then have at it! I felt it was important for you to understand that the idea
of finishing and having sex more than normal are not truths and something you
should base your sexual experiences on.
on to the nitty gritty. As I
mentioned before orgasm is fabulous and certainly worth trying to achieve.
Since you have never had an orgasm during sexual intercourse I would
suggest trying masturbation and seeing if you can reach orgasm yourself.
Masturbation is an excellent way for you to explore who you are and what
your hot spots are – the places when touched make you crazy!
If you choose not to masturbate or after you have explored yourself you
can try a few techniques in bed. For
example, when you start to feel like you are close or reaching orgasm tense all
the muscles in your body. By doing
this you help to tense your pelvic muscles, which are what create the feeling of
an orgasm. This is a quick and
dirty explanation and you can find more in-depth information in a number of
My best advice is that you not focus on this goal of finishing and enjoy the sensations involved in all activities associated with sex. Be true to yourself and if you feel that something more is need in your relationship such as toys, chocolate sauce, role playing or whatever turns you on – talk to your partner. As for the need to be sated, you do not always need a partner to fulfill your needs, which comes in handy when your partner is at work, out with friends or away on a trip. You have the power to pleasure yourself and that will also help you to understand what needs to be done to help you reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. Erin Black, BA
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