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Contraception
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How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS: Dealing with contraception (written by Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
I need some advice. Even since my Missy gave birth to our 2nd child, we had
problems having sex. As an act of family planning, we use condoms whenever we
make love, with the help of KY jelly sometimes. Unfortunately, each time after
making love, my wife becomes sore at the virginal with redness and it hurts and
sometimes there is also green discharge. We consulted doctors and were told that
the redness could be caused by the layer of skin being too thin at the affected
area and the discharge is common for most lady after birth. She is afraid to go
on the Pill as she gets a lot of side effects from it. The use of a diaphragm is
also out of the question as it would cause heavy flow during her monthly
periods. the use of other family planning like the calculating of periods has
also failed. We have even contempt to go for sterilization, but having read that
it would be irreversible, we have given up on it. My Missy and me would like to
have a health sex life, but this has caused us much pain and frustration. She
suspect that the redness and the pain after sex could be caused by the condom
that we use which includes spermicidal. Please help. Michael
Dear Michael,
When dealing with contraception there are always many possible answers which
is hopefully good news to you. The irritation may in fact be caused by a
spermicide or she may have a latex allergy. You could try polyurethane
condoms or you could try non-lubricated condoms. She sounds sensitive to
hormonal methods so Depo and Norplant are probably out. But, have you
and her thought of an IUD? There are some myths floating out there that
these things are bad but they really have a lot of advantages that may work
for you. They can be in for years and you don’t have to put anything on
at the time of intercourse. Millions of people use them without fail.
They are very effective and do not involve hormones. Perhaps you and her
could do some research on the different types of Intrauterine Devices or other
contraception together. The web is great for such research.
Whichever method(s) you select remember the best method is the one that
works for you and her! If you are going to use it or it hurts or it
doesn’t match your values it will not work effectively because you won’t use
it. Shan & Claude
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