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How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS:
Lack of sexual satisfaction (written by Shan & Claude MS.Ed.)
Ask Shan & Claude,
Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about 1 year now and we love doing
it, we are in love and happy together My problem is that I do not get as
satisfied sexually as my girlfriend does anymore. When we were first were going
out we would have sex 1 or 2 times a day, and I loved it...but now we have sex
around once a day (when we see each other) and this does not satisfy me, I could
easily have sex 2 or 3 times a day ! I find myself masturbating during the day
because I am still horny and un-satisfied...I find myself always hounding her
for sex and she is never making a move and this really bothers me. I have talked
to my girlfriend about this problem but she doesn't take the issue that
seriously and sometimes say " your too greedy." Another thing that
bothers me is that if we have sex and then 10 minutes later after we finish I
feel like some more she is satisfied or tired! She used to be a lot casual
and interested when we first started having sex but now she is more stiff, I
can't help being this sexually active it's just the way I am, if feel that she
is not that excited by me as they way she used to be. I'm worried this could
wreck up our relationship, could you please help me in anyway, I don't mind
criticism just as long as it helps my problems.
Dear “hornier than
partner,”
You have a very common problem. Many couples find that the two partners in
the relationship do not have exactly the same sexual needs (in terms of numbers
or frequency). We would recommend that you speak with her about ways that
you two could mutually remedy the problem. You could masturbate more, you
could talk about you seeking other partners, you could try to discover what is
going on regarding her needs and wants and what is going on for her in life and
in the relationship. We would recommend that you do not try to force her
to turn up her dial or for you to try to turn down your dial. You both
have different needs and that is okay. You will have to work together to
try to get your individual and mutual needs met. That is accomplished
through communication. That is not accomplished by trying to change one
another’s current sexual setting. We do not think you are greedy and
name calling will not help! You two are just different. If it was
really different at the beginning of the relationship it may help to study how
you and her were also different at the beginning of the relationship and how you
may be able to implement some of the things that were present at the beginning
that contributed to you being more sexually fulfilled. Shan & Claude
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