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Sexual fantasies
Ask Kelly, Dear Stephen, Second, most people have
fantasies they would not really want to happen to them in real life-that is why
they are called fantasies. Usually they represent something else. I am sure your
girlfriend does not really want to be raped. You are right, it is a violent act
that has nothing to do with making love. Some women who fantasize about being
raped are really trying to give themselves permission to be sexual. Society
sends messages to women that they are not supposed to enjoy sex, it is only for
reproduction and there is the ever present double standard between men and women
when it comes to having sex. Women are supposed to attach it to a
relationship, for men it is OK for it to be casual etc. Sometimes, the only way
a woman can justify her desire for sex is to have a fantasy where it is taken
from her-then it is not her fault. I am not saying that this is the case with
your girlfriend, only one way of looking at it. About the dog thing...I
would not say it is abnormal and it really is not that uncommon, but again, it
may only be a fantasy. not something she really wants to do. I doubt if she
would damage herself for life if she did this. You have every right to refuse to
do ANYTHING that makes you uncomfortable and she should respect that.
Fantasizing can be very erotic and we all do it. Sharing those fantasies with a
partner can be a way to become closer, but some people choose to keep them
private. One thing I would recommend is that you read the books written by Nancy Friday on the subject of women's sexual fantasies. She gathered information from hundreds of women about their fantasies and put them into some books and talks about what they night mean. The two you mention in your email are included. One of the books is called, "MY Secret Garden." there are 2 or 3 others that I can't think of right now, but they will be in the library or bookstore. She also did one with men. I hope this helps! Good luck, Kelly Connell MS.Ed. |
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