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Vaginal Dryness (written by Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.)
There are NO silly
questions! I am glad you felt comfortable enough to write to me. There are
many brands of lubricants out there today. Flavored, unflavored, some with
spermacide, some thick, some thin etc. If you are using condoms, which by the
way, is great! you want to use something that is WATER based. DO NOT use
oil based products like vaseline, cooking oil or some of the lubricants sold in
stores. Always check the label first. Oil based lubricants destroy condoms
very fast and they will make them break within minutes. Water based
lubricants are condoms friendly. As for brands, there is KY Jelly or
Liquid, Astroglide, and Wet just to name a few. Some are available at your local
drug store, but depending where you live, stores like Condom Kingdom or Condom
Mania have a wide selection. I think they are available online through these
stores. It might be fun for you and your partner to experiment with different
brands, flavors etc. to see which ones you like the best. As for applying the
lubricant...start by putting some on the outside of the condom once it is on his
penis. Then put some on the outside of your vagina, and inner labia (lips)
this will help you be more comfortable with the friction of intercourse.
Lastly, try putting some inside the vagina. You can put some on the inner part
of your vagina, by the entrance, with your finger. If your have small or short
fingers (or your partner does) and can't manage to get some up inside the
vagina, you can use an applicator like the ones that come with spermacide.
You may not need to use a lot at first. Start with small amounts and gradually
increase the amount until you feel comfortable. You may also need to stop
during sex and add more. Vaginal dryness is very common in women as they age but
it need not be a barrier to a satisfying sex life. Talk to your doctor and
try these things .
.I have mentioned. Good luck! Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.
Vagina (Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.)
If you are concerned about your partnerís reaction to
your lubrication, try having a towel or wet washcloth next to the bed or where
ever you are having sex where he can wipe his hands if he wants to.
However, many times I think the woman is worried about his reaction and he
doesnít even notice or think anything is wrong. If you are concerned about
your underwear, try wearing an unscented panty liner.
Lastly, DO NOT DOUCHE!!!!! I cannot stress this enough!! Douching is bad for you for several reasons. The advertising industry tries to convince women that their vaginas should smell like a rose garden. You have a natural smell and secretion level. Douching wipes all the normal secretions away and your body OVERCOMPENSATES by producing MORE secretions! In other words, it will come back heavier! You are also wiping away the normal bacteria that live in the vagina and it will come back heavier too, often resulting in a infection as the bacteria produce at a high rate to try to catch up. If you do have an infection douching pushes the infection higher up into your vagina transferring all that infection to your uterus and fallopian tubes. it can be very dangerous. Even the ones made of water are unsafe. If something does not look right, feel right or smell right it is usually because something is not right and you need to get to a doctor! Same goes for all the deodorant tampons, pads etc. You are putting chemicals into your vagina every time you use them. I hope this helps Kelly Connell, MS.Ed.
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