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Gag
reflex
(how to have good sex)
HTHGS:
Gag reflex (written by Amanda Lambros, BA)
Dear Amanda,
My b/f wants me to give him oral pleasure but the one time I did it, it
was a very bad experience so I'm deathly afraid to try it on him. But I thought
if I had a little instruction that I'd feel more comfortable doing it. I don't
have the slightest clue as what to do so, if you could give me some how-to
instructions on what to do and how to drive him crazy-I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks-Scared and uninformed
Dear Scared and Uninformed...
I totally understand the whole 'one bad experience' thing but I can say
from first hand knowledge that you can't base previous experiences on future
experiences because you will never experience anything new.
The whole gagging issue is normal. It is a reflex called
the 'gag reflex'. Some girls experience this while brushing their teeth...so
there's nothing to be worried about. The best advice that I can give you is to:
1- don't think about the act while you are doing it. think of something else..
and 2- breath in while giving head and this will cause the gag
reflex to hide in the back of your throat and therefore you should be
able to complete the act without gagging.
One
thing that guys love is that while giving head...focus on the 'tip' of the
penis...this is anatomically similar to the clitoris and therefore loves
attention. With one of your hands, cup his balls and gently play with
them...this often gets them going. The
honest truth though...the above is great advice but if you still want to know
how to drive him crazy, I would suggest asking him what he likes done and how.
Men (surprisingly) are much like us...everyone is different and therefore some
things may appeal to one that does not appeal to another. I
hope I've helped you out. Please Stay Safe and Enjoy! Amanda
HTHGS: Oral Sex (written by Amanda
Lambros, BA)
Dear Amanda,
Is there a certain technique that makes deep throating easier? I've tried
it on my boyfriend but I always gag and I'm afraid that might make him feel
guilty or grossed out. Also, is there a way that I can make him cum quicker,
since I cannot last long because I gag too much.
Sincerely, Hopeful
Dear Hopeful,
Deep throating is basically the process of being able to take a man's
penis deeper into your throat while performing oral sex. Some women have what is
called a 'gag reflex' and others do not. From what you have described, it seems
as though you are one of the girls that does actually have a gag reflex. There
is nothing wrong with this. What I could suggest is that as you are going
deeper, try breathing out at the same time. This will open the back of your
throat up a little more, making it easier to take. Another thing I would suggest
is to try not to think of deep throating, think of something else while you are
doing it. This is a visual technique that might in fact slow down your gag
reflex.
Any noises or gags that you make should not make your
boyfriend feel guilty or grossed out...if it does, he should tell you so.
Unfortunately, there is NO WAY to make him cum quicker. That is something unique
to his own body. What I would suggest doing, is that as you are performing oral
sex on him, with your hands, you can gently play with his balls or his inner
thigh and this will turn him on. If you are feeling daring, you can gently run
your finger around the outside of his anus which will also cause him pleasure.
(But please make sure to really wash your hands afterwards for safety). I hope
I've helped you out. Have a great time experimenting. Amanda
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