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Phimosis
(How to have good sex)
HTHGS: Phimosis (written by Amanda
Lambros, BA)
Dear Amanda,
I am myself only 18, and do not consider having sex right now because I
don’t feel I am ready. The thing I am worried about is my foreskin, I cannot
pull it back fully over the head. I have worried about the pain this might cause
during penetration. I know I can take action to solve this from other letters I
have read, but will it effect me if I don't, because I have to admit I am scared
about any sort of action on my penis, and organizing anything. I myself am quite
shy and would not want a doctor to know about it, let alone a doctor. I think
when I’m older it might be easier, but if I advance further in my relationship
before that things could become weird, the last thing I want is not to be able
to have sex not because I choose not to, but because I cant. Is it necessary to
have it treated, or are there is anything you can suggest to help me cure it of
my own methods.
Please contact me, I am worried.
Dear Worried,
I'm glad that you wrote. Most men do not acknowledge this particular
situation as a 'problem'. It actually has a medical term, which is called
PHIMOSIS. This is a condition in which the foreskin of the penis cannot be
pulled back and it can also cause painful intercourse. There are a few things
that you can do to attempt to solve this problem. The first is actually
masturbating and each time that you masturbate, use a significant amount of
lubrication and slowly force the foreskin back a little more each time.
Overtime, the foreskin should loosen up and slide back without worries. If
you've tried this and it doesn't work, the other alternative is actually going
to see a surgeon. The surgeon
will make a very minute cut in the foreskin which, when healed, will
allow the foreskin to slide back.
I want to assure you that it will not affect you if
you choose to do nothing about the phimosis. Many men live regular and
productive lives this way. On the other hand, many men are born with this
condition and go through the surgical procedure without minor pain associated
with it for a few short weeks.
When it comes to having sex, the first thing that I
would suggest is to use a condom. This is actually keeping the foreskin in place
and would therefore cause absolutely no pain at all, plus the added bonus of
preventing possible sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV, HPV and Hepatitis
just to name a few. (*I would really suggest using condoms at all times to avoid
sexually transmitted diseases) If you choose on the other hand to not use
condoms I would suggest using lubrication because this will allow for the penis
to enter the vagina with ease whereas if you choose not to use lubrication, this
is fact might cause minor to extreme pain (depending on the individual) so it is
not suggested.
Hopefully I've answered your question. Have a great and 'safe' day,
Amanda
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