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Masturbation
HTHGS: Masturbating my
partner (Written by Dr. Pluhar)
Ask Erika
Hello I have a question about masturbating my partner. If you could help
me, I would like to know, how it is best done. Thank you for your time.
Hello,
Dear Hello,
Thank you for your great question. The absolute best way to find out the
"best" way to masturbate your partner is to ask him or her.
Individuals themselves are the experts when it comes to their own
pleasure. You can have this conversation either during sex play or when
you are just hanging out together. You could also do both. For example, you might bring up the topic by asking,
"I'd really like to learn more about what feels good to you. Will you
tell/show me?" You might also ask your partner to masturbate while
you watch (if s/he is (and you are) comfortable with this. This is a great
way to learn his/her techniques. You can also get this kind of information
while you are "in action." For instance, while you touching your
partner, you may want to ask, "does this feel good to you?" or you
might ask for her/him to move your hand in a way that feels good, which will
show you the technique at the same time. All of this really boils down to
communication between you and your partner. After all, everyone
experiences pleasure in different ways and there certainly is not one formula
that will bring all people the same amount of ecstasy. So, the secret is
to ask! I wish you the best of luck and thank you again for your question.
Sincerely,
Erika
HTHGS:
Masturbation (written by Dr. Rowan & Dr. Pluhar)
Ask Dr. Rowan & Dr.
Pluhar,
I am 22 years old boy and I have a very serious thing to ask you.
I have been masturbating for the past 5-6 years nearly everyday.
I would like to know if this would be a problem for me in the future.
Please guide me and help me out. Thanks
Muler
Dear Muler,
There is no evidence that daily or more frequent masturbation has consequences
in terms of future potency or fertility. If your technique causes
trauma, then you should change it. If masturbation interferes with
relationships, then you might consider therapy to explore why this is so.
If you feel guilt (an almost universal experience) consider the study of
masturbation-positive books to see it from a different, more joyful,
perspective.
Dr. Rowan
Dear Muler,
Thank you for your question. You are not alone in wondering if
masturbation might cause you harm. Because of the many myths that abound
about masturbation, it often isn't easy to talk about it, let alone feel
comfortable doing it. But, rest assured that there are absolutely no
proven health problems that result from masturbation, even if you do it once a
year, once a month, or once a day. In fact, masturbation is a healthy and
normal behavior. It can help people relieve stress, experience pleasure,
and learn about their sexual response cycles. The only time masturbation
can be become a problem, just like ANY behavior, is when the urge to do it
interferes with your normal life and relationships. From what you
describe, your masturbation is perfectly healthy and natural! I hope this
helps you out and relieves your worry. Sincerely,
Dr. Pluhar
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