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I need some help with my daughter & son. I saw my kids in there room and they were so called naked and my son was down there on her and she was down there on him then I opened the door and they just staid there like rocks I said what are you two doing and then they just ran out the room I saw them every night doing this since then what can I do to help they are just little kids but look big like (son)17 and (daughter)19 but they are only 14 years old help me please I am 34 male single.
Gary

Dear Gary,
Thank you for your question. It sounds like the situation you describe is disturbing to you and I'm glad you are seeking help on how to deal with it. Although it isn't possible to fully assess the situation because there are some further details I would need to have (i.e., Are these step-siblings? Is the sexual behavior consensual?), I can give you the following information:

Childhood sex play between young children (through about age 8 or 9) often occurs in the form of taking off clothes, "playing doctor," or comparing body parts. However, if your children are both 14 and are engaging in what sounds like mutual oral sex, there may be a problem. 14-year-olds are able to understand what they are doing (unlike young children) and if they are repeating this behavior, it is possible that there is something problematic going on. I would suggest contacting your family doctor or a mental health professional as soon as possible to discuss the situation further. Good luck and I appreciate your question - written by Dr. Pluhar

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September 19, 2006