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Orgasm
and pain (written by Dr. Pluhar)
The
female orgasm (written by Dr. Pluhar) How
to orgasm during intercourse (written by Dr. Pluhar)
HTHGS:
Orgasm and pain (written by Dr. Pluhar)
Ask Dr. Erika Pluhar,
Hi Erika. Me and my
girlfriend are having a bit of a problem, and I was wondering if you might be
able to tell me if this problem is unheard of or not. It seems that after she
orgasms, a little while later (maybe half an hour, an hour, or two) she feels a
large internal pain in the area of her stomach. It lasts hours sometimes. She
doesn't want me to think it is because of the orgasms, as she knows it would
make me feel bad, but I suspect this is the case, and I was wondering if this
problem sounds like anything you have ever heard about. I am indeed trying to
convince her to go to the doctor, but she is quite reluctant to do so. I am just
too curious to wait, and I was wondering if you could help me. Thanks a lot!
~anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
I agree with you, and would
urge your girlfriend to go to a clinician and get a check-up to find the cause
of the pain. Without more information, it is difficult to say what may be
causing the pain, but the best bet is to get it checked out by a health care
professional.
Hope this helps,
Dr.
Erika Pluhar
HTHGS
How to orgasm during intercourse (Written by Dr. Pluhar)
Ask Dr. Erika Pluhar,
I have a question about sex for you. My girlfriend and me have been having
sex for a while now and I can't get her to have an orgasm with me being inside
of her. I can however give her an orgasm with my hand by rubbing her but
not while actually having sex. It's been really bugging me because I
shouldn't be the only one having an orgasm during the actual sexual intercourse.
Now I heard, but I’m not sure that their are two separate things inside of a
female and if you go into the wrong area she won't be able to have an orgasm.
I don't know if that is true or not and I feel like I’m doing something wrong.
I hope that you can help me. Thanks a lot, I hope to hear from you soon. Rob
Dear Ron,
Thank you for your question. First of all, it's perfectly normal that your
girlfriend doesn't experience orgasm from your penile thrusting alone. In
fact, many women need clitoral stimulation alone or in addition to vaginal
stimulation to have an orgasm. So, rest assured that neither of you are
doing anything wrong. There are some positions you can try that will
increase clitoral friction. The woman-on-top position allows her pelvic
area to push against yours and gives her control over the speed, motion, etc.
This may make her more likely to orgasm with you inside of her. You may
also try a position in which you are both lying on your sides, leaving hands
free to stimulate the clitoris. You might also try adding a vibrator
during sex, so that she can stimulate herself while you thrust. The most
important thing is that you recognize that you're not doing anything wrong.
Just keep communication about what feels good open and broaden your perspective
on what is pleasurable. We live in a society that is very goal-oriented
about sex--if both people don't experience mutual, multiple, simultaneous
orgasms during intercourse, it's almost as if we've failed. But it doesn't have
to be that way. The best thing about sex is that there isn't one right way
to do it. Everybody has things that feel better to him or her than others.
Remember, the brain is ultimately our biggest sex organ so use your
imagination!!
As
for your question about two separate things inside a female, I think you are
referring to the g-spot. On the front wall of the vagina, about two inches
in, is some spongy tissue. In some women, this spot can become very
sensitive when sexually aroused and stimulated by a finger, penis, or other
object. Some women can rub the g-spot and experience orgasm (either with
or without clitoral stimulation). Some women even experience ejaculation
from g-spot stimulation (it looks like urine but it isn't). Remember,
though, that the g-spot does not have the same sensitivity in all women and some
women may not feel like they have a sensitive spot there at all. For these
women, the clitoris is the most important spot for pleasure. The best
approach is to ask your woman and find out what feels good for her! I hope this
helps, Dr. Erika Pluhar
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