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Penis size and shape
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS: Too small (written by Calee Spinney)
Ask Calee,
I've never done this before....but "my friend" wants to know what you
should do if you dated a man with a rather large penis for a long time and now
you are dating a man....with a not so large penis and you cant seem to orgasm
with this man, even though you are madly in love with him? Size really does
matter.... other factors are that he is quite a bit older and he hits his peek
rather quickly... Thanks, "O"- less in New Hampshire
Dear O,
I know that there is a lot of talk about there about the size of a penis, but
fortunately it doesn't matter as much as you may think, and not in the way you
might think. Generally, when we think about how big a penis is, we think length.
When it comes to penises and sex, length doesn't really affect the amount of
feeling that you get. This is because women don't have the right kind of nerve
receptors in their vaginas to detect the depth to which an object is penetrating
them. The majority of nerves in the vagina are in the outer 1/3, which virtually
every man penetrates to. So it is actually the girth of the penis (the
circumference) which matters, because the nerves at the opening of the vagina
can feel this kind of difference.
Also, the female pleasure center (the clitoris), is located outside of the
vagina, so the size of your partners penis does not affect your ability to be
orgasmic. As long as you are receiving clitoral stimulation (whether it be
during intercourse itself, as a part of foreplay, or after he has climaxed), you
will still be able to orgasm. Having a man climax before you do can certainly be
frustrating. But fortunately, his orgasm does not have to signal the end of sex.
He can continue to stimulate you orally or manually until you orgasm. Or, to
help him delay his climax a bit, have sex with him on the bottom. This will
allow him to remain more relaxed, which will give him more control over the
timing of his orgasm. It will also give you more control over the pace of sex
(which may help you orgasm), as well as make your clitoris more accessible for
manual stimulation.
His age shouldn't be a factor, because this does not affect his ability to
have good sex. If you are as in love with him as you say, than all this will
take is a little work from both of you! Good luck!
Letter to the editor,
RE:http://howtohavegoodsex.com/spinney.penis.size.and.shape.htm
Dear
Calee,
I guess I'm going to have to differ with you about women not having the right
kind of nerve receptors to detect the depth of a penetration. I really
don't think that I'm composed that much differently than other women in this
world, and I most certainly can tell when a man's penis is hitting
against my cervix! Sometimes, it can be a very pleasant sensation, and is
a contributing factor to my reaching orgasm. Other times, depending upon
which man I have been with, it can be very uncomfortable, and the "depth
factor" can actually take away from the experience of intercourse.
I mean, I have to agree with you that there are a lot of nerve receptors at the
opening of the vagina, and of course, around the G-spot, but your statement
about not detecting depth just didn't ring true for me. Sincerely, Carolyn F.
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