Clitoral
stimulation
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
HTHGS: How to finger a woman (written by Shan&Claude)
Ask Shan&Claude
,
I
am not very old, and I am very curious. I just recently started dating a girl,
and she wants me to finger her. I have never done this before. My question is,
how do I do this, so that I do it right??
Dear
“I’m not very old…how do I do it right?”
There is a stipulation that you must be 21 to ask questions on this website. Hey, it sounds like a twenty-one year old question – so we
will be happy to answer your question. Of course some young women enjoy being
“fingered” but generally speaking, many females do not get an incredible
amount of pleasure from penetration (putting a finger inside the vagina).
We are not sure exactly what your partner would enjoy but we would guess
that she would be more pleasured if you stimulated (messaged and rubbed) her
clitoris since the majority of women orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris.
There are many books and pictures that illustrate exactly where the
clitoris is located. If she was on
her back with her legs spread her clitoris would be between her legs at the
“top” where her labia meet in what looks like a small “hood.”
There is a technique where you could slide your finger over her clitoris
as you insert it into her vagina. On
the howtohavegoodsex website there are some Sex Tips about the clitoris and
orgasm that may be able to help you out. If
you feel comfortable you may ask her to let you watch her masturbate or
masturbate together so that you may observe what she enjoys and how she “gets
off.” The best way to know how to
pleasure someone is to ask. If you
can not talk about the things that you are doing with her you may not be ready
to do those things. Communication
is always an incredibly important component of any relationship.
In research we have seen that the vast majority of people are very
relieved when their partners bring up sexual histories and issues around
sexuality (89% report
they would be glad if their partner brought the subject up; 87% said they would
feel respected; 86% reported they would feel relieved; and 84% reported they
would feel cared for). In
other words – most people want to talk about sexual issues with their partner
but are hoping that the other person brings it up! We encourage you to be the one to initiate conversations
about such wonderful topics. Have lots of fun communicating, Shan&Claude
HTHGS: Clitoral Stimulation (Written by
Shan&Claude)
Ask Shan&Claude,
This is more of a clitoral stimulation question. My lover and I often have
sex in the missionary position. I was just wondering if there is more
clitoral stimulation when I am laying on top of her or when I hold my self up
with my arms fully extended. I am 6 foot 3 inches tall and my arms are
about 3 feet long (give or take a few in).
I also had one other question, which might be kind of silly.
I am interested in measuring my penis, but do not know where to stop measuring;
whether to stop when is reaches my scrotum or what. Thank You-D
Dear clitoral stimulation question,
Everyone has different bodies. One woman may get more stimulation from one
position than another. You will have to ask her which feels better.
Generally, women report that they get very little clitoral stimulation from
intercourse - only about 30% of women orgasm from penile-vaginal intercourse.
We have also read that of the women who orgasm from intercourse they tend to be
on top of their partner. Again regardless of research the best way to
know is to ask her what feels best!
In regard to measuring there are actually clubs that
may be able to answer “how to measure” better. There is a club called
“The Hung Jury.” We do not have any contact information, but we are
sure they could be found on the web easily. Some people say to measure the
bottom side of the penis and others measure the top. We have never really
concerned ourselves with penis length. We have always been of the camp
that believes that sex is more about pleasure, communication, and intimacy than
it is about numbers of orgasms, length of penis, size of bust, how many times a
week, etc…Hope that helps
Shan&Claude
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