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Clitoral Stimulation
**** The Art of Fingering ****
The most common misconception about fingering, is that the giver assumes the
"in-out" action is pleasurable. The most pleasant sensation is
derived from applying pressure to the vaginal walls; particularly the G-spot.
Ask any woman if she'd prefer her lover to have a moderately thick cock, or a
long thin one. 99.9% of the time, she'll opt for Stubby. (If we
wanted our cervix poked, we'd go to the gyno.)
In fact, the in-out
motion of a finger can become more irritating than anything. The vaginal
lips are pretty sensitive, and repeat friction begins to chafe. Yes,
really.
( Of course, fingering
should occur after sufficient foreplay. There's nothing worse than
some moron shoving his pointer finger up your dry pussy and poking you into
submission. So guys, when your hands wander between her legs and you
realize that there's more moisture in the Sahara, take the hint. )
Ok! She's wet!
She's squirming! What now??
The typical woman
prefers to be penetrated with 2 fingers. One is not enough (unless she is
a virgin, or otherwise very tiny down there) and three is too much. Of
course, use your discretion and listen to her response. You should be able
to tell the difference between an uncomfortable-moan and a pleasure-moan.
And if you cant, you should not be having sex.
Slide your
fingers slowly between her lips, and let yourself explore a little bit to find
your bearings. If she is aroused, you should be able to feel a rough,
spongy spot on the roof of her vaginal wall. Push on it. (Yes) You
should be moving your fingers in a "come here" type of motion.
Check your partners response to different pressures, and adjust to what makes
her squeal.
** Inexperienced women might relate this new
sensation to having to pee. Reassure her that she wont, unless of course
she guzzled a 12 pack before you got intimate. **
Don not bother moving
your finger in and out to simulate sex. She will most likely be in
absolute erotic bliss just by having her g-spot pressed. Change the pace
of the 'pressing' and note her reaction. Does she want it fast and hard or
slow and easy? If you cant tell, ask her. We'd prefer to hear our
lover say, "How do you want it, baby?" than lay there unsatisfied and
frustrated. (Think about hand jobs and how annoying it is when you're
being stroked slowly and delicately when you really want to be pumped like a
SuperSoaker. See my point?)
If you really want to get fancy,
place your thumb on her clit while you press her g-spot. Even just letting it
rest there feels good. (The clit is that little pink bump at the top of
her pussy. Believe it or not, that would have turned into a penis had she a
Y-chromosome. )
Your girl wont cum from this, but who cares?
Most of the other women I've talked to agree with me when I say the shocking
"flickers" of intense pleasure they experience are better than an
orgasm anyway. The only problem is that there is no release at the end.
But really, it's sexy, erotic and safe...and a great prelude to other
activities that CAN bring her to orgasm, if that's what she craves...
Have fun! Erica
HTHGS:
Letter to the editor,
RE:
The Art of Fingering ,
Erika, i have to thank you for that wonderful email. Thankfully, ive had
oneboyfriend who knew almost everything that you wrote, but i know that 99% of
men out there have no clue. I cant tell you how many times ive heard men say
that they need to do something to lengthen their penis; my eyes start rolling
right away, because i realize that they have no idea what women like. I
emailed your article to every single person i knew (both man and woman), and i
printed out copies to take to work, and the women were snatching them from me
like crazy... talk about a cat fight! Again, thank you so much for writing that!
I know you will be responsible for many an orgasm! - Mizeh
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