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Penis Shape & Penis Size
How To Have Good Sex, Inc.
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Penis sloped downward (Written
by Shan&Claude)
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Naturally larger penis (written
by Shan&Claude
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Increasing one’s penis size
(written by Shan&Claude)
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Full Erection (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Small Penis (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Penis Girth (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Hour glass effect (written by
Shan & Claude)
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Curved Penis (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Large Penis (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Small Penis (written by Shan
& Claude)
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Too large to be on top (written
by Shan & Claude)
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Information on penis shape and
size (written by other sexperts)
HTHGS: Penis sloped downward
Ask Shan&Claude,
Do girls mind when a guy's penis in sloped downwards during his erection? Also,
If I masturbated often as a teen, could that cause me problems later in life?
Dear downwards slope,
We can not speak for all girls! HOWEVER, we can assure you that all girls
are different. Some may prefer an upward sloping penis, BUT some girls
will prefer a downwards slope! From what we have noticed it is
usually the “owners” who are concerned about their penis size or length or
slope! Many women don’t seem to care nearly as much as the guys’ do!
In other words how you feel about your own penis is really the issue that is
important! In regard to masturbation… the only problem that researchers have
found associated with masturbation is that sometimes people who masturbate feel
guilty. Masturbation, self-pleasuring, is a wonderful way to be with
yourself, learn what you enjoy, and celebrate being a sexual person. There
is also no risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections! You
will not go blind, you won’t grow hair on your palms, you won’t go crazy,
and you won’t run out of sperm. There is no amount that is too little or
too much. The most important thing like with your penis is how you feel
about masturbation and your relationship with yourself. Only if
masturbation starts to interfere with your job or school (like getting fired for
doing it on the job and so forth) or harms yourself or others is it a problem!
Shan&Claude
HTHGS: Naturally Larger
Ask Shan&Claude,
Can you tell me a safe, natural way to make my penis larger? Wanting to be
larger
Dear Wanting to be larger,
We do not know of any that are "proven" to work. How do you feel about
your current penis? It may be important to examine your feelings of
wanting a larger penis and how you envision life with a larger penis and so on.
What would change and could you make that change now? Sorry, to answer your
question, we do not know of any "natural and safe" ways that we could
recommend. Shan&Claude
HTHGS: Increasing one’s penis
size (written by Shan&Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
Can you tell me a safe, natural way to make my penis larger? Wondering,
Dear Wondering,
We do not know of any that are "proven" to work. How do you feel about
your current penis? It may be important to examine your feelings of
wanting a larger penis and how you envision life with a larger penis and so on.
What would change and could you make that change now? Sorry, to answer your
question, we do not know of any "natural and safe" ways that we could
recommend. Shan&Claude
HTHGS: Full erection (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
I am man and in the last 2 months or so I have not been able to reach my full
erection point I am able to cum, but the size is almost have what I am to do or
see need help. Thanks a lot help me get back
Dear Get Back,
There are many suggestions offered on this site about erections (http://www.howtohavegoodsex.com/flaccid_penis.htm).
Overall, we will tell you that as men age they generally experience times where
they can’t get as “hard” as they could when they were younger.
Erections and hardness are a combination of your fantasies, excitement, your
penis, your cholesterol and health (if your blood flow is healthy you will be
able to have an erection and maintain it easier than someone with impeded or
poor blood flow). Hopefully, this helps you understand why you may be
experiencing less "stiff" erections. As you get older, chances
are that it will occur more frequently. However, this does not at all mean
you can't continue enjoying yourself! Just because you aren't as hard as a
rock doesn't mean "sex" shouldn't be fun. Shan
& Claude
HTHGS: Small Penis (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shannon & Claudette,
My name is T, I have a major problem. Even though my partner gets her
orgasm, I am not satisfied my penis size. My question is, How can I enlarge my
penis?
I have seen an enlarger at a sex
store, does that work? Is there any type of advice I can receive concerning this
topic? I am very serious and concerned about my penis length. Thank
you again, and God bless you. T
Dear T.M.O.
In our experience men seem more concerned with their penis length than women.
The penis “enlargers” you
see in stores don’t really “work.” They will not give you a
larger penis. They sometimes help people get an erection but will not
contribute to permanent penis enlargement (or they would be MUCH more popular!).
There are operations and prosthetics that can increase penis size if your size
is really deeply concerning you. For that you could check the Internet for
resources and doctors. It can be hard to come to terms with our body parts
and who we are. Many people suffer because they feel inadequate about
"what they have." We are sorry that you somehow feel
"less" than others. There are two other questions that we have
answered similar to yours at this address:http://www.howtohavegoodsex.com/colestocks.penis.shape.htm
At the risk of sounding to "parental" your penis is unique and special
and it is yours and we hope that you will someday be able to see the beauty of
it. Shan & Claude
HTHGS: Penis girth
(written by Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
I know that many people say that it is not the size the main mast that matter
but the motion of the ocean. I have had some embarrassing moment because of the
size of my penis girth. I have had two of my ex-lover tell me that my penis was
not thick enough. Considering that I have only been with four women, these
comments have had a great impact on my male ego. I have asked my present love if
she has a problem with the girth of my penis and she says no. But, I know that
it does because she sometimes comment on the thickness of some of the porno
stars that she sees on porno films. I don't understand why she can't be honest
with me. I have tried to use those penis pump and it make my penis hurt if I
leave it on too long. I have also tried over the counter blood circulation pill
but all they do is give me an erecting when I really don't need to have one.
That is, while I am at work, church, at a meeting, etc., and let me tell you it
is totally embarrassing when you can't stand up after a meeting while surrounded
by my coworkers. Do you know of any way that I can increase the girth of my
penis? I don't think that the length is a problem because it is a little above
average but the girth is a problem. Can you help me with my problem.
Dear Girth,
Because your girlfriend comments on the thickness a penis in a movie does not
mean she doesn’t love yours. For example you could notice some body part
on a woman in a movie and it wouldn’t mean that you didn’t love your
partner's part. We can appreciate many things even their differences.
You asked her if she had a problem with it and she said no. It is obvious
that the girth issue is in your thoughts. We would recommend against using
the penis pump especially if you say that it hurts you. It will not
create any permanent changes it is usually used to help men get erections
not as much of a permanent size enhancer. If it is seriously concerning
you there are surgical processes that could alter your girth. There is
also similar advise on the website. Shan & Claude
HTHGS: The hour
glass effect (written by Shan & Claude)
Ask Shannon and Claudette,
I masturbated often as a teen and stopped when I became sexually active. Shortly
after I stopped I began to realize that my penis looked a little odd. It seemed
thinner and smaller when flaccid. My penis began to role over on its side, like
if you looked at me from directly in front of me you'd see the side of my penis,
and one last thing ever once and a while either when I go to the restroom or
strip to take a shower I realize that my penis is an abnormal shape as in the
middle of my base there is a big slope inward so it is thick at the base and as
it goes up it caves in and then goes back up to the original thickness.
It doesn't appear this way all
the time mainly when my crotch is sweaty from exercise, sports, etc or when I'm
cold. But everything else is all the time, this is a concern for me because it
is embarrassing and causes me to hesitate to take of my pants around people.
What my question is, is will this correct itself naturally or should I do
something?
Dear Concerned,
You need to know that you are not alone! Many men have the “hourglass”
effect. We don’t believe there is a technical term for it but it is
totally normal! The penis changes shape more on some people and less on
others. How one masturbates may have a slight effect on how it curves over
many years. Some people are born with variations on angle, width, size and
so forth. There isn’t much that we know of that you could do to change
the shape of your penis. You may be able to stroke it with pressure in the
other direction if you really believe it was your masturbation that altered the
angle. It would sort of be like a woman saying she didn’t like the size
or shape of her breasts. Did you quit masturbating because you started
having intercourse with others? Last time we checked you were “sexually
active” well before you had intercourse sexual with yourself! Masturbation
is a healthy and wonderful way to celebrate and enjoy yourself. Shan &
Claude
Letter to the editor,
I could not believe that I read that these sex experts told girth that his girth
issue was all in his head. I do not believe that there is any set right or wrong
size and width of a man's penis as every woman is different with her male
preferences just as any man is with his female preferences (height, breast size,
ect...). If it is important that his lover be satisfied with his penis size then
he should ask her how she feels, which he has done already, and as long as their
relationship is an open one and truthful, then girth could probably believe her.
However I was completely offended with "It is obvious that the girth issue
is in your thoughts". How a person sees himself or herself is what is most
important. You can tell a skinny woman all day that she is not fat, but as long
as she sees herself as fat, she always will be. If two men told me that my
breasts weren't large enough then I would have some residual doubts as well.
Obviously he has doubts that aren't easily overcome. Why not suggest that he try
methods to come to accept his body the way it is (I'm sure sex experts have tips
for this) and then precede with medical practices as a final solution?
HTHGS: Curved Penis (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
Hi! I have a question, which I hope you two might be able to answer. I'm
seeing this guy and we've had sex a couple of times and while I normally enjoy
penile-vaginal sex a great deal, I don't quite as much with him, partially due
to the shape of his penis. It curves upwards and hurts when it's in.
I know I'm not really tight, but I've never really felt pain like this before.
Do you have any suggestions as to what to do? And is there a way I can
suggest something to him without hurting his feelings or insulting him?
Thank you!!
- Jo
Dear Jo
We would not recommend you do anything that is uncomfortable or causes you pain.
If you do decide to keep having intercourse you may be able to experiment with
positions that are more comfortable along with telling him when it hurts, when
it feels good, when it is too deep. He probably doesn’t want you to
silently endure any pain (and if he does that is not good!). Telling
him how you feel and what feels good should not threaten him it isn’t meant
to be hurtful. It is important to be assertive and honest or how will the
situation change? Hopefully, he respects honesty and recognizes that
honesty is a wonderful and necessary quality to have in a healthy and
pleasurable relationship. Shan & Claude
HTHGS: Large Penis (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
There's no other way to say it,
but my lover has a very large penis, in both length and girth. I've always been
a little on the small side, so the disproportion, while not excruciating, is
very difficult to deal with. It's like I can't grip it enough with my vaginal
walls to get a good stimulatory effect (i.e. I can't squeeze it enough to cum).
And, if I'm on top, it hits my cervix and makes a popping sound and let me tell
you, THAT is a little uncomfortable physically. Are there any techniques I can
employ for getting around this situation? Thanks! *a*
Dear *a*,
You
could practice exercises that will help you relax and contract your vaginal
walls (many techniques are explained on this website dealing with this issue
specifically Kegel exercises). You may find that “doggie style”
(you on your hands and knees with him penetrating you from behind may help.
Likewise, “spooning” (you on your side with him behind you). It seems
in some regard you are dealing with a physics problem big penis small
person! One idea that is sort of “out there” is that you could try to
put some devise around his penis (at the base) so that when he thrusts he can
only put a few inches of his penis in you. For example if when he thrust
this device hit your hips before his penis hit your cervix. Sex isn’t a
science and this “device” may not exist but improvisation is fun and it
may be as simple as putting a Boppy (a pillow shaped like a horseshoe found in
Baby stores) on his hips to prevent full penetration. The Boppy pillow would
probably work? Take precautions in regard to your cervix because research
is showing that continued thrusting on the cervix could increase the likelihood
of cervical cancer and of getting a sexually transmitted infection especially
HPV/genital warts. Sex should not hurt it should be pleasurable.
Definitely take the time to communicate and be in touch with your pleasure and
what it will take to avoid the discomfort. Shan
& Claude
HTHGS: Small Penis (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
Me and my boyfriend had broken up for a couple of months, and during that time,
I was dating and having sex with someone else that has a slightly bigger penis.
Now that my boyfriend and I are back together, I for some reason don't feel him
as good as I used to. I am still attracted to him and all, but for some reason I
can't seem to feel good when he's inside of me because I don't feel anything?
What happened? Please help me... I love this man to death, and I don't want this
to come between what we have. Help!!!!
Dear Help!!!!,
If the difference in penis size was “slightly bigger” we are surprised you
noticed at all. Are you sure it is not your feelings that have changed? Maybe
you view him and sex differently after having new life experiences? Only you
know the answer to that. If you really love this man “to death” we are sure
a “slightly smaller penis” would not get in the way of finding ways to
pleasure one another! Hope that helps, Shan & Claude
HTHGS: 6 inch dick (written by
Shan & Claude)
Ask Shan & Claude,
I have had sex once but it
wasn't good on my part. I was told that I was too short and I was wide enough.
How do I please women with a 6inch thick dick?
Dear person with a thick penis,
This sounds like the punch line
of a joke by just showing up! It is truly not
the length or the width. Sex is solo
much more than just a penis thrusting into a vagina. Listen, it was your
first time no one is a professional the first time out. We do not know anything
about your partner but we would suggest that you consider getting a partner who
may be a little more understanding or supportive. Shannon and Claudette
HTHGS: Too large to be on top
(written by Shan & Claude, MS.ED)
Ask Shannon & Claude, I have
been with my boyfriend for 2 years and his penis is much larger than what I am
use to and I find it very difficult to be on top, I feel like when I am on top
of him I don't know what to do, and mostly he does all the work and it makes me
feel stupid, like I don't know how to move but I can, I just can't with his
penis size, I totally want to please him, any suggestions on how I can move on
top considering his penis size??? please help dayze
Dear Dayze,
There are many ways to please him BUT you should be thinking about your
pleasure and if it does not feel good DO NOT do it. Take the time to
communicate what is going on for you. If he thinks it is okay that
something hurts you chances are he is not worth your time. Take care of
yourself, Shan & Claude
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